"My brother and sister in law are about to have a baby boy and they might not take the time to read something regarding circumcision. I need the best links on the subject so that by just seeing it they can see what they are doing. Thank you so much for your help."
It's hard to share information on the topic of circumcision when you only have one conversation, one email, perhaps literally one moment, to make that connection with another parent. You don't want to judge them, confuse them or overwhelm them with information. You need something that will encourage them to look into the subject. What to do?
I prefer what I call the 1-2-3 process. Choose 3 links. One based on the natural state of the body, one informing about what circumcision is or does and then one resource list for additional reading. This way you can adapt to the audience but still touch on the complete picture.
Here is an example for someone who you think might be completely new to the topic, or who is not as close to you as a good friend or family member:
1. What is the foreskin?
Here is a video of computer-generated genitalia. It is short, unbiased and easy to understand:http://www.youtube.com/verify_age?next_url=http://www.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3Dc8voOaGouDM%26feature%3Dshare
2. What is circumcision?
Here is a pro-circumcision educational video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDuDhkiDdns
3. How do I make a decision now that I know what the foreskin is and what circumcision is?
This website is nonjudgmental and easy to navigate: http://circumcisiondecisionmaker.com/
What about someone who is already questioning and looking for lots of information? Or someone who is more open or closer to you? Here's another 1-2-3:
1. "I want all the info you have." http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2010/05/everything-i-currently-have-on-genital.html
2. "My husband thinks my son will be teased." http://www.facebook.com/chooseintact
3. "I don't want a mom-blogger post." http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201109/more-circumcision-myths-you-may-believe-hygiene-and-stds
What about a face to face situation, where time is limited or you only have a moment to encourage additional research?
1. Be confident.
You might be worried about causing an argument or offending, but when a friend sees that you are confident in your decision, it won't wrongly cast you as manipulating or trying to sell something. "I've researched circumcision and it's very troubling. Would you like to learn more?"
2. Be personal.
You're living it, whether that's learning from a previous decision or raising intact sons. "My boys are intact and we've never had a problem. I'd love to chat with you about if you have questions." or "I circumcised Jimmy and we really really regret it. I'd love to share my story with you."
3. Be brief.
If you're going to make points about circumcision, choose one or two points and avoid statistics or other heavy data. "Most boys are not circumcised around the world."
It's really simple to care for a boy with a natural penis." "Would you like to hear more?"
© Guggie Daly 2010