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I find it interesting the way people attempt to discredit opponents based on assumed gender or sex. For example, it is very common in the circumcision debate to hear a person who supports circumcision say, "Well, you are all women. I'd like to see a male on here." [As if a male is needed to validate the arguments against cutting babies].
I see that happen as Roger mentioned in the abortion debate as well.
But overall, it seems males, especially fathers, are the ones who are shunted to the side in our culture. This makes sense to me on a primal level. Fathers have a deep desire to protect their partners and their offspring. So targeting them and stripping them of their power is the first thing that needs to be done, leaving the woman vulnerable and the child helpless.
We clearly see this in the obstetrics industry, too, where fathers are disempowered. In fact, Janel's documentary on this phenomenon brings up a lot of food for thought:http://www.theothersideoftheglassthefilm.blogspot.com/
The interviews with the fathers are very eye-opening. As Janel asks in the film: at what other time and place would a man stand to the side silently while his partner and child are tortured? Abortion, birth, circumcision, vaccination?
Now, YES, the father has influence in some cases. Indeed, we DO hear about fathers coercing women into abortions, refusing to consider homebirths, demanding circumcisions, sneaking off to vaccinate, etc. But looking at the overall societal message and legal infrastructure, fathers don't get a say. And children of course never get a say or choice in any of these issues pertaining to their bodies.
True feminism would not stand for this. We've simply swung the pendulum from one side to the other, using our children as ammunition in a war that cannot allow both sides to be equal. Instead of all people being raised up, receiving basic human rights and protection from violation, our culture has us tearing each other apart based on sex.