Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Confessions of an Intact Teen

(©) LK 2011. I am very proud to share my teen brother's thoughts on this topic. He watched a video of forced infant circumcision and had a lot to say about it! 

"So I've heard of circumcision before. Something about cutting the penis skin. Sounds horrible. But today Guggie showed me a video of it on youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDuDhkiDdns.

It made me sick to my stomach. I can't believe the doctor did that to a baby. I can't believe people like that are allowed to walk free after torturing a baby on their most sensitive spot. Why did the dad just sit there? Why didn't the dad hit the doctor, push him away, grab his baby and run?

I wish they could make a machine where they take the doctor's mind and put him in a baby getting tortured and make the doctor feel it and remember it forever.

Guggie shared with me some of the reasons parents make their boys go through this.

She said that parents are afraid their boys will be teased if they have penis skin. Who will tease them? And why? No one has ever teased me about it. And if they did, it wouldn't bother me. When you get teased by someone, you have to show it doesn't bother you or that person will keep teasing you.

She said that parents think circumcision stops infections. Are they insane? Penis skin stops infections. If you didn't have skin, you'd get all kinds of infections! I've never had an infection. But you know what happened to me when I was 10 years old? I was playing on a playground and slipped down a wet slide backwards. I landed facedown at the bottom. The ground was covered in rocks there from someone who had dumped a pile at the bottom of the slide. I scratched up my legs and stomach and tore my penis skin. It was hanging almost from a strand. The doctor made sure it was clean and sealed it with glue. Do you know what he said to me? He said, "If you were missing your foreskin, you would be having cosmetic surgery right now." My penis skin saved me from surgery!

Guggie said the last, biggest reason parents do this to their children is so that the son looks like the dad. What dad would want his son to get his penis chopped up like that? When I have babies, I will kill anyone who tries to do this to my sons. No one will cut my babies! Dads are supposed to protect their babies. Dads are strong and watch over their families. They are supposed to be brave and stop the bad guys. Not stand there while the baby cries. My dad is circumcised and I am not. I never really knew why or cared until Guggie showed me that video. Now I'm really happy that my dad protected me.

I want parents to know that penis skin is part of the penis! And penis skin protects the penis! It protected mine! To the dads: if anyone ever tells you to cut your son's penis, grab your son and run away! Don't be like the dad in the video."

~LK



40 comments:

  1. Oh wow, that is the most adorable picture of those guys! What a great post! Thank you for sharing, Guggie!

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  2. It's great to hear from a young boy! Thank you for sharing your story.

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  3. This is pure awesomeness!!! Thank you for being so smart! <3

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  4. This is a powerful testimony from a young man who obviously knows what's up. LK, I was cut as a baby, but you better believe I protected my son!

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  5. Many blessings to LK and Lars. You two are both brave and smart. Xo

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  6. Kudos to you LK for speaking up! Guggie, this post was pure awesomeness :)

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  7. graaaah! I shared on my profile and what happens - guy says it's obviously fake.

    feh.
    Sometimes my friends' cynicism irks me.

    ~Mali

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  8. It's refreshing to hear a young man have the PROPER reaction to witnessing such a brutal act of violation on a baby. That's how normal people should respond to such breaches of basic human rights. Even children know what's up. He is horrified and properly so! Way to go LK!

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  9. Thank you for sharing your thoughts LK. I feel sad to think that you had to see that movie, and to see that father standing by and not doing anything to protect his baby. It's a shocking, confusing and very helpless feeling to think that parents could stand by and do nothing, and worse yet- that they asked for it to be done to the baby. I know it doesn't make a difference to what is happening to the little baby, but the parents really do believe that they are doing the best thing. They simply have no idea. They want to do the right thing, and because we (our culture in America) have been lied to about circumcision, they think this is not a big deal and is the best choice in the long run. A voice like yours is so important to help people understand that babies are born beautiful and they don't need their bodies changed. Thank you for speaking up.

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  10. aww, omg. Maybe Im a little emo today because that made me cry. I hope more boys speak their minds about the topic. We have lots of women posting their opinions but rarely hear from children old enough to have an opinion on the matter. TY

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  11. Give your brother a hug from me!!! Thank him for being so open and honest!!!

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  12. This was a great read! Thank you so much for sharing. Its amazing how logical it sounds when you hear it from a 13 year old. Not that I needed convincing, but for all those that say its dirty or that they want them to look like Dad.

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  13. Kids and their honesty, gotta love it!

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  14. Well said, young man. Much love to you.

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  15. You rock.

    That is all.

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  16. I love this post! "Grab your son and run away" is right!! I love his response to the argument about being teased.

    --Athena

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  17. Great perspective, Gug! Sharing this SUnday

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  18. *Tears*

    Hugs to you LK! You're my new teenage hero!

    You're going to make a wonderful husband and father someday kiddo! An intactivist in the making =D

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  19. This line brought tears to my eyes: "Dads are supposed to protect their babies. Dads are strong and watch over their families. They are supposed to be brave and stop the bad guys. Not stand there while the baby cries."

    So often, it's mothers who speak out against circumcision, or mothers who cave to a father's wishes to have it done. I love how LK puts the responsibility on the father to protect his babies.

    Thank you for this succinct and moving piece.

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  20. Wish I could give you a big hug, kiddo, for being able to see what so many grown men and women cannot. You have it exactly right, and I'm glad that you got to see that video, and I'm PROUD of you for being brave enough to step up and say things that some men 60 years older than you still can't bring themselves to admit: that circumcision is WRONG!
    Guggie, well done raising an intelligent, well-informed, eloquent boy. That kid's going to make a difference in this world in so many ways.

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  21. This is soo amazing, and SO sad!
    i love kids.. their simple minds.. they UNDERSTAND :) Thank you Guggie <3

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    1. "Simple minds" is very offensive. "Simple minds" is one of the main "arguments" used by procircers. You should be ashamed of yourself to call this young man "simple-minded". SHAME on you.

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  22. Really wonderful to read of this kind of awareness! (Children know instinctively until they are taught the lies.) The photo is a delight too.

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  23. Gorgeous :-)
    My son is nearly 9. If he found out about circ he'd be freaked out and terrified I think!

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  24. smart kid. :) I love how kids are blown away by what adults think is just so normal... not trying to open a can of worms here but it reminds me of my brother when he learned about abortion... "Nuh uh! They don't let you do that!"

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  25. I just want to say... WOW. You have more wisdom and maturity than people many times your age.

    How old do you have to be to run for president?

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  26. First off, kudos to you for the wonderful post.

    As to your question from the start why dad just sat there and watched, this has to do with unlived emotions. A lot of the underlying psychological mechanics is being explained in "The Drama of the Gifted Child" by Alice Miller, a book everyone should read at some point in their lives.

    Basically, children idealize their parents to the point of not acknowledging their own emotions and wishes. This can be a permanent state if these early-life emotions and wishes and needs and the lack of their fulfillment is not confronted at some point.

    Any man who is circumcised carries with him not only an outer but also an inner wound. But if that inner wound (the feelings of grief and loss and anger etc) have never been acknowledged, there is a very strong tendency that these parents will visit similar cruelty upon their own children one day.

    An emotionally congruent circumcised father who has acknowledged his true (and completely inevitable) feelings about being mutilated without his consent would indeed NEVER have a son of his mutilated. But most people never grow up and prefer the false warmth of their denial bubble. Or, one might say, they are never born, instead prefering the false warmth of their denial womb.

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  27. What an empathic, articulate and sensitive boy! He should be a spokesman for the movement, because it is important to hear children's voices. Be careful about showing these gruesome videos to kids, though- it can traumatize them.

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  28. Alright,

    i am a circumcised male. I was circumcised at the age of 15 and i can proudly say i am thankfull for that. I had some medical troubles down there, u know.

    Anyway i agree with you up to some point, i dont like new born babys to get circumcised (even if they dont remember it - i dont know anyone who is able to remember anything from his / her first year on earth) But i dont like to those no-circumcision movements!

    Anyone who claims that circumcision is always harming the boy is simply wrong. Believe me i had to try "stretching, creames and so on" and i took this shit seriously (which boy would not play with himself?). It took 4 weeks to fully heal from the circumcision but it was a revelation for me!

    No i dont say every boy has to be circumcised but i would not deny a boy this solution either. Oh and just b.t.w. videos of medical procedures are all more or less disgusting and for children more or less disturbing.

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  29. Azrael, no is berating medically necessary surgery. The reason we speak out against routine circumcision, is because they are routine. They are done on healthy, infants without medical necessity.

    That being said, it sounds as if you are referring to Phimosis. Dr Momma compiled quite a bit of research on it here:

    http://www.drmomma.org/2010/01/phony-phimosis-diagnosis.html

    If you as an adult tried lesser treatments and when they failed, consented to surgery, then you have nothing to defend or justify. You did things ethically. Good for you! I just wish all people were given the same respect.

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  30. My favorite: Doctor says ""If you were missing your foreskin, you would be having cosmetic surgery right now." My penis skin saved me from surgery!"

    So much for the "Don't need foreskin because men aren't naked scraping against bushes"pro-circ argument. And what happens if you burn your penis? without foreskin you loose everything sensitive.

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  31. LK gets it! He'll appreciate knowing how the Dartos muscle works with erection. This sheething muscle tenses with erection to create a solid one piece skin tube where any action on it is transferred to act on the Taylor's Ridged Band and through its loop to the Frenulum, this action is transferred to act on the Frenulum. All action on the intact penis acts on the erogenous structures - ridged band and frenulum.

    Circumcision always removes all of the Taylor's Ridged Band and part to all of the Frenulum. This destroys the tension of the Dartos muscle, so all action is wasted on the frenulum remnant, if any remains. Action therefore must be applied directly to the remnant frenulum.
    (and thrusting is done downward to activate the frenulum remnant which is away from the female g-spot counter to her pleasure.

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  32. It would not be at all appropriate to give LK an honest answer to his very fair questions. The rest of this comment is for adults only.

    American parents circumcise because they fear that the man their son will become, will face repeated sexual rejection if he has the penis nature gave him. The natural penis is viewed as stinky and dirty. Germs are assumed to grow under the foreskin. Sex with an intact man is assumed deeply unappetizing. The natural penis is seen as effeminate. And most of all, fellatio is viewed as every American male's God-given right, and it is assume that it is impossible to fellate an intact man because of the utterly disgusting taste. Americans seem to assume, unconsciously, that their sons will have to live with plumbing of 1870 vintage.

    The short answer is: American parents often circumcise their baby boys, because they believe that the alternative is repeated horrible embarrassment as a teen and young man.

    American parents are also not aware of the price a circumcised man pays in terms of reduced sexual pleasure and functionality. Circumcision discards the most sexually sensitive parts of the male body, a fact much of mainstream America is not yet ready to face.

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    1. the worst part of the whole fellating an intact man tastes disgusting is that it's not even true- my husband is intact and he's never smelt bad, tasted bad or had any problems.

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  33. What a wonderful post. I have 2 intact sons. Ages 14 years and 22 months. And when I was pregnant with my younger son, my elder one was learniong everything he could about pregnancy & babies online and he came across info on circumcisions. He was appalled! He also couldn't understand why anyone would do that to a baby, and none of the reasons I could give him were justifiable to him! (Nor are they justifiable to me, how could they be?)

    He has never been teased for being intact, no one even knows. He didn't even know what intact or circumcised meant before then, no one had ever brought it up. He has never had an infection or complications from being intact.

    Thank you for sharing.

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  34. #$*!@^ Apparently you need to log in before typing the comment. What is up with that google? Other sites at lest let me recover my comment when I log in!

    Your brother is absolutely right. I used to think that an intact foreskin was "unclean". That this had to be done or there would be problems. Thanks to a little common sense, sexual curiosity, encyclopedias, and internet I now know better. I wish my parents knew better back in 86, and they should have. May Father was botched and my Mother was a nurse aid. The hovering question is 'why?' but I just want to move on with them having little impact on my life. Knowing what I know about circumcision, I only talk to my parents because I live with them. I feel like they had me sexually violated, and I am contently reminded of this.

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  35. You are 13 and yet you speak more rationally on this subject than the majority of 'adults'. I find the way many people have said 'well done' to you to be patronising. Whatever, maybe this isn't important. Keep being awesome.

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