Saturday, June 25, 2011

Liam's Story

As I write this post, I can’t stop the tears from pouring down my cheeks. My dear friends Leilani Luna and her husband, peaceful parenting advocates, experienced a stillbirth.

From the beginning her little baby was welcomed into the family.

Leilani had experienced two previous c-sections, with the last one being over 11 years ago. There were no adhesions and the scar had healed well. Everything looked fine. Her baby was growing and she was glowing.

But on June 15th, 2011, her precious son, Liam Dietrich Luna, was born still at 12:05AM. He weighed 10lbs, 5oz and was 22 inches long. He was chubby and perfect, with reddish brown hair and blue eyes like his daddy.

Leilani’s tragedy was rare and an extreme emergency whether at home or in the hospital. She had several hours of very hard labor with little progress when a severe pain across the middle of her abdomen appeared. It was extremely painful and did not go away.

The doctors verified she had experienced uterine rupture. This caused another rare emergency, a placental abruption, and this is what took Liam's life. Her waters had broken and leaked into her abdominal cavity. It is a miracle that she is alive today. The doctors proceeded with a c-section after verifying that little Liam had passed on from this world. They had to clean out her abdominal cavity. Her uterus was shredded and the doctor spent a long time repairing it, but she will no longer be able to have biological children.

The doctors also diagnosed her with severe pre-eclampsia although she did not have that diagnosis during pregnancy, nor did she have symptoms.

A few days after coming home from this tragic experience, she developed a fever with chills and had to be hospitalised again. The doctors thought it was something serious and death was mentioned. They couldn't find the cervix or even the top of the vagina & had a hard time finding the uterus. They had put her under anesthesia for an exam.

Thankfully, it was only her bladder. It wasn't emptying and was distended from the urine. After all that was emptied, they were able to find everything in its place. Even though it was "only" that, the second experience left her very ill. She has been on countless narcotics, antibiotics, contrasts, etc over the last 10 days.

Please send a prayer or healing vibe as she and her family work through this dark journey not only of physical healing, but also of grieving for Liam. Leilani has experienced a loss that no mother wants to think of and has still found the strength to take time to share Liam with us. He is beautiful and has truly impacted the lives of many people.

Rest in peace, dear Liam. You have touched many hearts.
What is a uterine rupture?

”Uterine rupture in pregnancy is a rare and often catastrophic complication with a high incidence of fetal and maternal morbidity. Several factors are known to increase the risk of uterine rupture, but, even in high-risk subgroups, the overall incidence of uterine rupture is low. From 1976-2009, 20 peer-reviewed publications that described the incidence of uterine rupture reported 1,864 cases among 2,863,330 pregnant women, yielding an overall uterine rupture rate of 1 in 1,536 pregnancies (0.07%).”

What can you or your provider do if a rupture occurs?

Similar to other severe emergencies such as placental abruption or cord prolapse, this is a true emergency that requires immediate action and often has poor outcomes regardless. :( This article talks about how a rupture is typically handled:

What is a placental abruption?

It is an uncommon complication where the placenta detaches from the uterine wall.

What can you or your provider do if a rupture occurs?

Similar to uterine rupture, it is a severe emergency that requires immediate delivery.


  1. I am ceritanly sorry for your friend's loss. This is tragic.

  2. That is so incredibly sad. That poor family. How completely devastating. This family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

  3. Thank you for sharing Leilani. I cannot imagine living through something like this, I send you love and healing thoughts and hope your body heals quickly and your heart finds some peace eventually. Hugs xxx

  4. This poor family... there's really nothing we can say to help them feel better, is there? It's just so unfair, for these horrible things to happen to people who are clearly so loving and good. This is so much more than heartbreaking, because it was so unexpected and there was no way to know just how quickly things would turn tragic. We'll hold this family up in our prayers, and hope that one day in the future they'll be able to use their story to educate others and help people be more compassionate toward those who have suffered such losses.

  5. I love Lani, Troy and their daughters! I've known them for many years and all my love & prayers are with them now and always. ~Melanie L.

  6. I am so sorry for your friend's loss. He is such a beautiful baby boy. My family and I will keep her and hers in our our prayers.

  7. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll add Liam's name to my candlelighting for my Rowan beginning this evening. Sending love and light to you for healing.

  8. My heart goes out to her and her family. I can't imagine having to go through all of that and not even be able to take my baby home or have any more children. =( I hope she can find the strength and courage to move on for her family. Much love to you and yours Leilani. <3

    I'd love to have more children but things like this keep deterring me. I have to admit - I am going to be scared s***less if I get pregnant again.

  9. How so very sad. I lay here nursing my sweet child not being able to imagine the grief and pain this mother feels. My thoughts go out to her and her family. :*(

  10. What a beautiful, sweet angel of a boy. My thoughts are with your friend. A loss is something no mother ever fully recovers from, but her beautiful son is there with her, watching over her. I wish her nothing but the best and speedy physical healing so she can begin to try to put her life back together again. I have been there, I know it's something that is all too hard to do. Blessings to her and hugs from afar.

  11. Praying for her recovery and the consolation of the entire family. What a tragedy.

  12. Just heart breaking. So much lost. Peace be with you.