If these parents are honestly reading any links you posted or thinking about your reasoning, it would be a good time to support them in their journey as they begin to realize the horror of what they cooperated in, the grief crashing down upon them, and finally the betrayal and guilt of being swept into this culture of hurting babies.
Although it's easy for us to feel that parents should fully inform themselves before ever consenting to surgery on their children, we must remember that it is still culturally acceptable and even obligatory to follow the advice or guidance of the doctor. The thing is, any informed and ethical doctor would discourage consenting to circumcision and refuse to perform it.
Parents carry a lot of blame in a lot of things when it comes to raising children. They shouldn't carry the blame for being conditioned to obey an unethical doctor who solicited circumcision surgery for their sons, or who did not take a few minutes to outline the basic risks and damage that their sons would experience from it.
If we lose this moment in time where we can reach out, support, empower and love, then we risk ostracizing these parents, and in a cruel way, forcing them into a corner of despair and guilt.
As much as we must always speak out for the wellbeing of the innocent children, please remember the wellbeing of the parents. Speak truthfully, but with charity. Mend hearts and build friendships.
|Whitney regrets consenting to circumcision for her son. |
She loves him dearly and is a mother just like any mother.
Meet other parents who regret their sons' circumcisions. Think about them and their experiences when you feel like lashing out.