So guess what happened this morning?!!! YAYYYY DH (Dear Husband) and I stopped by Target this morning to grab a few things for our camping trip and I stayed in the car b/c the kiddos were asleep in their seats. After a few minutes, DS (Dear Son) woke up so I started to get him out...then became aware of a lady sitting in the passenger seat of her 2 door Pontiac w/ 3 small kids in the backseat and NO carseats.
It was a quick observation that made my heart sink but I wasn't sure what to do and I was busy attending to my son. I just kept unbuckling him, feeling her staring into my back. Then I sat in the van to nurse him. She stared and stared. I was thinking to myself, oh dear, she's angry that I'm nursing in public, even in my own vehicle...then she got out...OH DEAR!!! HERE SHE COMES TO GET ME! LOL
She walked up to the window and said, "I saw your carseat decal about rearfacing and I see your daughter in her seat. How old is she?" *I almost coughed down my surprise lol*
So I told her she'll be 3 in November and she said, "My son is 3!" (AGH!!!)
We chatted. She has a 3yo, a 6yo and a 7yo stepson. NO carseats of any kind. She said that after the infant seat, she was confused on what to buy and her partner didn't want to spend money. She thought they were big enough.
I said, "Let's go shopping."
And so, we did. With 5 kids in tow, we, the mamas, shopped the carseat aisle. She had ZERO in her budget so we didn't try for extended rearfacing (tall, heavy 3yo anyways, uncertain of exact weight). So we got a Maestro for the 3yo, then a Graco hbb and a Graco low back. They all fit. Those 3 kids drove off correctly belted. :) I also had some of my free USAA carseat brochures and gave her a handful to keep in her car and pass out to her friends.
Oh and the quirkiest part to this entirely unexpected exchange... as they were driving away, she said good for me for breastfeeding and that she likes peaceful parenting on Facebook and I should check out that page. *giggles*
I hope this brightened your day. :) It totally made my day and was a tangible reminder of why I keep sharing on here. Yesterday, I bumped into more information about ongoing drama and once again considered shutting down my activism and moving on to another hobby or something. (I was pretty deflated). I guess this was a much needed sign to keep my chin up and to trust in other parents.
Because you are NOT "just a mama." You are THE mama. And you are the only person who would go to the end of the world, give your life, study every night late into the night, read every medical journal out there, stand up to any doctor/nurse/caseworker, go against every cultural practice, risk alienation and mockery, all to make sure your child is respected and safe.
Whether it's about birth choices, circumcision, vaccination, carseats or anything else, YOU are the one who will reach down deep to find the strength to do what this amazing lady did in the parking lot today. She approached a complete stranger and humbly asked for advice. She got over her guilt. She got over her fear. She did this for HER CHILDREN. Because she is THE MAMA. Never underestimate yourself and the love and commitment you have for your child.
This is the decal on my van, hand made by Educated Mama Decals.
Who wants her child to be a minimum? No one! This is why I oppose the Best Campaign. Your words speak to others; choose carefully!