Yes, it's true that some people experience an orgasmic birth. I would even say my first birth was "pain free" other than a period when my round ligaments freaked out. By the time I got to my third birth, however, I was very calmly telling my sister to cancel her wedding and run for the hills. It's okay to point out that labor can hurt, sometimes a lot, and it's hard work! Don't set women up to think the pain is just another sign of failure or inferiority. The sensations (or let's be honest...the flat out jagged hot lines of aching pain) are FROM our bodies, from within ourselves and not bigger than we can handle.
|My third birth, arguably one of the most painful experiences in my life,|
and yet one of the most gratifying. Also, I laughed when I realized
my husband was wearing a shirt that said, "No PAIN, no GAIN."
Or how about home made products? Homemade shampoo, laundry detergent, deodorant, etc...yes. Yes, it can be cheaper (sometimes, lol). And yes, it is healthier. Definitely more ethical. But, be realistic about it. Sometimes, it doesn't work. In fact, a lot of times, it sucks and smells like donkey balls. I've smelled some homemade laundry detergent that is nasty. I would never want that on my body, even if it's healthy. (And one word: borax). My husband has willingly tried a whole line of products, from store bought natural to organic to home made. Then he snuck out to buy some Head N Shoulders. He said at least he'll be flake free on the bus to hell.
|Bus to hell, how many people get this???|
What about baby carriers? Yes, babywearing is fashionable. It's also super helpful, and I, like many other parents, tend to rave about how it's way more comfortable than carrying in arms, carrying a carseat or pushing a stroller. But, you know what? I've tried enough slings to know that some are painful. Some are inconvenient. Some are frustrating for the kids. Is it that hard to acknowledge someone when she says it hurts? "It's all in your mind." Um, no. Just try a few more carriers, Mama, and find one that works for you. A carrier should be convenient, feel comfortable and your child should enjoy the ride.
|I'm 41 weeks and backpacking a toddler to go grocery shopping.|
I couldn't have pasted a fake smile on if you paid me.
When you find the right carrier, you'll know.
Oh, yes! Let's not forget cloth diapers! They are one of the most addicting practices out there, with a fun assortment of styles to choose from (unless you choose them all ha). But again, let's get real here. I've used Huggies, Pampers, Luvs, Target brand...probably some others as samples..Guess what. They work pretty well. In some ways better than cloth. Why is it so hard to admit that?
|Really, though, they are sooo addicting!|
Match ALL the things!
And a quick rundown of many other things that I can't really ramble on about b/c then this post would be too long:
NFP (Natural Family Planning): Great! Healthy! Promotes bonding! Effective! Well, POAS a bajillion times, caring about your cervix every day, scratching things down on a little chart or filling out a monitor....it's not exactly fun unless you're that type.
Riding a bike instead of driving a car: Do we need to say anything about this one?
Health food: Yes, a LOT of it is tasty. And a LOT of it is not. Especially if you've been raised on junk and your taste buds are chemically addicted. Sprouted bread will never taste like nasty processed white bread from Walmart. And those healthy donuts? Healthy granola bars? Pass. Why do you think people are willing to eat processed yogurt colored with the ground shells of bugs anyways?
|Well, it's either this or that nasty plain stuff in my crockpot. Hmm.|
This "Best Campaign" sometimes gets the best of us! Just because these things are the normal way, the healthy way, the evidence based way and the peaceful way does NOT mean they are always easy, smell good, feel good and work without a hitch. I think we've forgotten the old wisdom: the right things in life can be the hardest. No one ever said it was going to be easy. The greatest joys and the greatest feelings of accomplishment can only come with the greatest levels of commitment and awareness.
|A short torso and big kids...nursing in a carrier is not "simple" nor is it|
"easy" "convenient" and "the best thing ever." But I did give it a fair try
and I managed to take a photo of one moment of success. :)