Here is a place to meet others, learn more or receive direct support:
How other cultures handle the post-partum time:
Perhaps one of the most common difficult situations I hear about from mamas is the pain they feel when their partners don't understand or don't want to support them. Here is a book that might be helpful. (Link is NOT monetized).
Read brief comments from other parents on their journey:
This is an encouraging, brief article, great for sharing with others to begin to break the silence:
Have you checked out the MTHFR issue? MTHFR is a genetic polymorphism that can make it harder for the body to process b-vitamins, specifically folate. We have a page dedicated to it and related conditions, called Modern Misfits.
Post-Partum Depression (PPD, or PND in other countries) also shows up during pregnancy for some women:
Have you considered using that placenta after birth to help slow the steep drop in hormones? Here is a fairly neutral article that presents more info:
More information on how using the placenta after birth can help with depression:
Is it depression? The concern with a diagnosis is that several other conditions also have similar symptoms. And battling other conditions for a long time can upset the chemical balance of the brain, leading to a secondary issue of depression, too! Here are symptoms of adrenal fatigue:
Did you know? Narcolepsy is another very misunderstood condition. People often think narcolepsy is about those who fall asleep randomly in odd places, such as in the check out lane at the store. But, Narcolepsy often involves other symptoms which are often misdiagnosed, especially as depression:
What if our experiences leave us w/ unresolved trauma, triggers, panic and PTSD? If we are unable to heal from these experiences, we might go on to develop depression. But if only the depression is diagnosed and treated, we might not see improvement. Here is a site for those who experienced birth trauma:
"A Tel Aviv University researcher has found that approximately one third of all post-partum women exhibit some symptoms of PTSD, and a smaller percentage develop full-blown PTSD following the ordeal of labor."
"Can childbirth—something so common—create a physiological reaction in a mother, complete with insomnia, nightmares or flashbacks? For some, it does."
A related issue that we need to break the silence about is previous abuse, whether physical, emotional, spiritual or sexual. The intense experience of birth, breastfeeding and beyond can throw parents back into their childhood experiences, leaving them feeling resentful, triggered and perhaps leading to symptoms of depression. Check out this post and join us at Survivor Parents for more info:
Fathers experience depression, too, and they have an influence on their children:
Pay attention to the dads, too!
Here is an entire site dedicated to dads:
Dads and depression, it's real and it's happening:
This documentary goes deeper into why parents might be experiencing PTSD and depression during pregnancy and birth. It also has a segment that really clarifies how some men might feel:
Although we've had pockets of progress, our culture appears to remain severely critical of PPD and any sign that mothers are unhappy, resentful or hurting. Here are 5 myths about PPD:
Need to share a quick list with friends?
A mama breaks the silence with her confession:
Here is a faith-based resource:
Indepth reading for professionals who want to assist parents:
Fish oil appears to help:
Oh, here is an indepth article about PPD and diet changes:
Here is the Mothering Magazine forum for depression:
A quick post on FCLO for those wondering about what kind of nourishing fish food is available:
Wondering if adrenal fatigue is the issue?
What else might be going on in the big picture? Things to think about while treating depression...food allergies, parasites, heavy metal toxicity, other undiagnosed conditions, vitamin deficiencies...here is a common one for women:
Partners, where do you begin?
A mama shares her experiences:
Sometimes people report that they are able to "take charge" of their lives and get out of depression. How can this be? Perhaps they saw the signs and were able to make dedicated changes before symptoms had persisted long enough to alter the chemical balance of the body. Don't ignore symptoms or hope they go away. Start being proactive now!
I have heard many parents say things such as, "Oh, well, I didn't start to feel off until my baby was 8 months old. It can't be PPD." What if it is?
This is a basic place to begin thinking about alternative or complementary options to assist with depression symptoms. I am not personally promoting each one...for example, I would encourage people to only use FOLATE, not FOLIC. But, still useless as a starting place:
Here's my folic acid post:
A study on aromatherapy and massage:
More on omegas and seafood:
Breastfeeding might be regulating immune systems and helping w/ depression:
Taking DHA might be helping some women:
Hypnotherapy...when you're struggling, it becomes one of those why-not-try ideas:
Mamas struggling w/ PPD, PTSD, anxiety or other situations after birth often share how they wish they could bond with their infants. Why not sign up for an infant massage class?
And for that matter, why not hire a doula who can massage you during labor? Or enlist your partner:
More on massage:
Get your levels checked, not only for iron, but other basics such as vitamin D and b vitamins:
Another b-vitamin appears to help:
Another study hinting that mamas might need to destress, detox and declutter our minds and bodies to overcome depression:
This link isn't supposed to judge, attack or make anyone feel bad. Rather, it shows that something is going on...chicken or the egg? It seems that several factors work together to create a situation where the mama and the baby are not bonding well or feeling well:
Oh, and besides infant massage, and massage for you during labor, consider massage all during your pregnancy!
Weaning and depression seem to have a connection:
When PPD can be diagnosed any time after birth, when is it PPD and when is it something else?
KellyMom.com has some suggestions here:
Here's a mainstream link talking about weaning and depression:
Postweaning Depression PWD:
The links on this page do not constitute medical advice. They are here to encourage you, to support you and to give you some ideas on how to seek out assistance. This study here indicates that alternative therapies can be helpful. Be sure to look for a doctor who is up to date on evidence based medicine and informed about additional therapies that can help you:
Good ideas and a basic summary:
Post Partum Psychosis (PPP) is not the same as PPD. It's rarer, and very serious:
PPP is more likely to make headlines and contributes to some of the stigma surrounding postnatal complications. Here is one woman's story:
We are more than our mistakes:
We are imperfect:
A poem about all mothers:
A mama lists things she doesn't like:
How do we recommit after a mistake?
Have you had enough?