Sunday, October 28, 2012

Today's Links on GMOs, Food Additives and Processing


Join the GMO-Free group on FB here:

Watch this movie free until October 31st:

The title sounds self-evident. The bigger concern is that scientists learned we are passing the GMO alterations on to our children while they are in utero. We are, essentially, genetically modified humans now.

New to the topic and looking for basic points? This list is a good place to start:

New Research- GMO Food Far Worse Than We Think:

SO glad to hear that this is not going to be used...for now:

Here's a mainstream link if you can't share "biased" sources:

Gaia Health talks about heirloom seeds here. Do you save your seeds? I have a lot of respect for my teen brother, who is obsessed with saving his seeds:

Seems like things are definitely heating up over our agri issues!

Hmm, interesting discussion from another mainstream resource:

Well, this is just commentary, not cited, but it spends some time reviewing the classic arguments:

What do you think about prop 37?

For those who like to listen, here's a discussion on youtube:

Here's a fascinating movie available on youtube:

Feel like all this info is over your head? Start with this refreshing documentary, from Food Inc:

Want more movies? Here is a list of 10 food documentaries:

A mother talks about GMOs and candy:

This article lists 5 products you CAN give out on Halloween, all regularly packaged and for sale at large retailers or health stores.

As she said...you can't make this stuff up:

The answer is, most likely, yes:

I really liked the positive attitude in this article, and the shout out about kids with allergies:

You might get hungry:

Someone was dedicated and active!

Don't think this is all about Monsanto. Many other companies, organisations and even the government are involved in a variety of unethical practices when it comes to nutrition and health. Like Nestle:

This is basically an "eat this, not that" article:

The rest of the world seems pretty energetic compared to us lol:

A tragedy, when modern business practices meet traditional cultural values:

" I know that many people are having questions recently about GMO seeds, especially with the California issue on the ballot in November. My newest webisode is "Get to Know" GMO. A simple explanation of what they are and how they affect your health #Yeson37" Dr. Bob:

This author breaks down the studies and puts forth a strong argument:

GMOs aren't the only issue. And since the fight is going to continue for a long time, don't forget to pay attention to the many other concerning ingredients in our food:

Before anyone feels hit by a bus...here's a great summary on the issues of processing, additives and more:

I like this article b/c it mentions the source...machinery used to process HFCS. As the material is pushed through, it becomes contaminated with mercury. This is true for all foods in all factories...anything on the machines (such as cleaning solution or oil) will end up in the food:

Pretty calm article, great for sharing w/ skeptical friends and family, and great suggestions at the end:

Parents: STOP right now! Make a commitment to treat ALL children with kindness, patience and understanding this Halloween. Children with sensory disorders, allergies, autism and more are trying their best to participate in what should be a fun holiday for all kids:

Food dyes....just avoid them, period. This brief article contains a link to a HUGE PDF with all the citations you need:

And JIC you can't stop using food dye lol:

A mainstream link:

Opinion pieces that explain "natural" flavoring:


Screen for this when you shop for food:

Related:

And when you buy those products "supplemented" with "healthy vitamins" what does that really mean?

A look at bread ingredients:

A related issue: humans and animals used in our industries for a variety of applications, testing or even in actual products:

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Monday, October 22, 2012

Today's Links on Childbirth Myths



Small pelvis:

CPD: Cephalopelvic Disproportion, or otherwise a fancy way of saying your pelvic outlet is too small for a baby's head:

CPD and more, with citations:

All about CPD:

Question CPD, a video with real testimonies:

More resources on CPD:
Very small women give birth to large babies (includes birth photos, NSFW):

Big babies:

If it's not your pelvis, then they'll blame your baby:

Crunch some of the numbers when it comes to big babies here:

Gail at Spinning Babies talks about big babies and what might or might not be expected:

A pithy read on the big baby in our culture:

A mama who had an 8lb and then 11lb baby gives her thoughts, along with citations, on big babies:

A list of studies on big babies:

My all-time favorite when it comes to breaking fat discrimination in birth:
This blog is filled with great info for plus-size mamas:

Discrimination occurs everywhere, including with midwives. Are you size-friendly?

Most articles and headlines were either rude or discouraging. This seemed the most concise, helpful link. Obesity doesn't mean you should be treated poorly, nor does it mean you should be banned from evidence-based options in birth. But it does seem to present additional concerns that need to be talked about:

Have you ever been denied an option during labor due to your size?

Racism:

This article discusses a cascade caused by racial discrimination, but the idea holds true for all of us. Being disrespected, restricted or even harassed about our bodies does not provide a safe, peaceful pregnancy/birth experience:


Cord clamping:

Delayed cord clamping, or rather...avoiding premature cord clamping. It helps preemies:
"CONCLUSIONS. Delayed cord clamping seems to protect VLBW infants from IVH and LOS, especially for male infants."

Friends and family gripe about how they will only listen to doctors? This OB provides quite a read:

Renowned midwife Gloria discusses the reasons to keep your baby's cord intact immediately after birth:

After decades of activists and "fringe" birth workers trying to change, it appears this topic has gone mainstream:

Penny offers a visual on why keeping the cord intact after birth helps your baby:

"Babies are born with their own resuscitation equipment. The placenta not only helps the baby to transition, but assists with resuscitation if needed. There is no reason to clamp and cut the cord of a baby who needs help. Doing so will create more problems for the baby and mother. Anything that needs to be done can be done with back-up from the placenta, and the involvement of the mother."

"Newborns cope well with hypoxia but struggle with hypovolemia. At the moment of birth, 30 to 50% of the baby’s blood volume is in the placenta, and immediate clamping deprives the baby of that blood. Adults are in perilous danger of hypovolemic shock and receive blood transfusions at 15 to 30% blood loss."

"Is autism caused by the sudden deprivation of blood, oxygen, and iron that happens when the umbilical cord is clamped before the placenta has finished its job?
Did I stand there and watch my son get autism? Did the doctor—and me, since I cut his cord—give him autism right there in the room? Is that why he looked fine at delivery and then suddenly got blue? Did we give him brain damage?"

”Without the burst of blood from the placenta, the infant suffers a drop in blood pressure as its lungs fail to open as they should, creating a chain reaction of effects that can include brain damage and lung damage “

“Studies documenting harm and lack of benefit have simply been ignored. The attitude has obviously been, "If no one knows, then it doesn't matter."

“The doctor who used to work at Memorial Hospital in Darlington, said if the need for early cord clamping was removed from NICE's guideline, 'there could be an overnight change in practice.' He concluded: 'Clamping the functioning umbilical cord at birth is an unproven intervention. 'Lack of awareness of current evidence, pragmatism, and conflicting guidelines are all preventing change. To prevent further injury to babies we would be better to rush to change.' “

Wow, here's some food for thought! :O

“WHY ARE CORDS EARLY CLAMPED?

When you sign papers allowing the hospital to "dispose" of the placenta and other remnants of birthing, when you think they are being burned or safely disposed, they're actually selling them to medical research for as much as $30,000 each! This figure was reported by the Children's Hospital in Randwick, Australia. This was confirmed in the 10th edition of the Principles of Anatomy and Physiology, 2003 page 1076. They're placing the baby at risk of these restricted umbilical cord problems to make money.”

Nuchal cords:

This indepth article walks you through nuchal cords, risks and why your doctor might have listed it in your chart:

What is a nuchal cord? When is it dangerous? This article is simple, easy to read and contains references:
http://www.natural-pregnancy-mentor.com/a-nuchal-cord.html

It's important to realize that although the issue of nuchal cords might be surrounded by myths and unwarranted interventions, the presence of a nuchal cord can indicate an issue, and babies can be injured. Discussing the myths and misunderstandings on this topic is not about dismissing those who have experienced injury or loss.

A mainstream article so you can share with friends and family:

More analysis of cords and cord accidents:

A doula talks about her discovery of nuchal cords:

VBAC:

Let's start VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-section) with a mainstream link:

IBAC (Induced Birth After C-section) is a tricky situation to navigate. It involves taking into consideration the risks of a previous c-section, the current risks justifying an induction and the risks of induction. But there might be some cases where it is an option as opposed to going straight to a c-section:

ICAN talks about the legal and ethical aspects of the right to VBAC:

What to do if your hospital claims they don't permit VBAC:

This article discusses a few common myths and includes data:

The American Pregnancy Association provides a great summary on VBAC, risk factors and the options available to pregnant women:

VBAC.com breaks down the ACOG's statement and includes a long list of links:

HBAC (Home Birth After C-section) is a point of controversy for some, but a dream come true for others. At any rate, this article provides a thorough look at the topic and includes 58 citations:
Here is an article I wish EVERY parent would read, whether you are preparing for a homebirth, VBAC or c-section. What if your doctor is selling you a scare tactic so common, a woman 3 years ago was able to write about it?

And in addition to VBAC scare tactics...don't forget to look for sabotage. This article presents the most common red flags:

Bait and Switch:

Birth Without Fear posts about a 10 year study on VBAC:

This is the big kahuna. Very long and thorough:

Cari shares her journey of preparing for HBAC, then transferring for a repeat c-section:

Holly shares about her VBAC, including using interventions with a successful outcome:

A mama prepares for HBAC, but experiences a uterine rupture and loses her son. *Trigger warning*

Why does our society attack and demean the women who want to use their body as it was designed/evolved?

Mothering Magazine has an entire subforum for VBAC:

A slideshow about conquering fears, healing and celebrating after previous c-sections:

Homebirth:

Myths about homebirth:
Common concerns about homebirth addressed here:

More myths about homebirth:

Inhabitots goes through common myths:

A video resource:

Why women really choose to birth at home:

Ginger breaks some stereotypes, and shares about her homebirth:

A great place to spend time...10 questions with a whole line up of homebirth dads:

Myth: siblings can't be at a birth:

Myth: fathers are a useless wheel at homebirth:

Enough said:

A homebirth slideshow:

Unassisted birth myths:

(Also see my compilation for links to threads discussing common stereotypes: http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2011/01/unassisted-childbirth-freebirth.html)

Learn about reasons to transfer, when to transfer, how to transfer, your rights and enjoy birth stories on the topic:

Midwifery myths:

More myths about midwives and interview questions:

I love seeing this super mainstream site talking about 5 waterbirth myths:

Great discussion about common doula myths:

About ten bajillion myths are busted in this inspiring video about multiples:

Some of the more common myths about birth in general:

This article talks about some true emergencies, true concerns and what you can do:

Purple pushing:

Discusses myths about episiotomies and provides citations:

Are you kicking your baby out?

Is "low fluid" the next big baby card?

Sunday, October 21, 2012

What (Who) I Wore Sunday

Just for a bit of fun...I decided to participate in a Sunday linkup.

What are my staples for a peaceful, gentle experience at church? How do I meet the needs of my children and make the experience positive for them?

The Essentials:

1) A comfy nursing top or layered shirts for quick nursing without a cover
2) A long, loose skirt that covers unshaved legs and is great in the cold or heat
3) My every day pair of worn out birks. (Seriously....Christmas gift hint lol).
4) At least one ergo
5) At least one baby

Wearing babies at church is a great way to spend time connecting with them. And if they fall asleep in the carrier, it's a great way to keep them asleep! You might even get to hear the readings. :-p




Join the linkup here:





It's Okay to Hate Being a Mom

I see this issue pop up here and there, and every time I do, I notice some disturbing trends. First, whenever a parent shares that she is upset, confused, angry, sad or even regretful about something related to parenting, I notice an immediate hammer of bashing drops. The message is clear: don't complain or you will be attacked and then ostracized.

Next thing I notice is that those who do not outright attack, start with the more passive routes behind a helpful persona. "Perhaps you need to research mental illness." "Have you talked to your doctor about prescription medication to take care of that?" "Honey, sometimes undiagnosed conditions come out after you become a mother. Go to a doctor."

Even worse, I find people like to add God into the equation. "Complaining is sinful." "Those feelings are just the devil trying to get you to be a bad mother." "You are being selfish and don't have the spirit inside you." Ever heard of JOY? It stands for: Jesus, Others, (then, far distant) You. Sounds great on the surface. Except when you're a hurting, exhausted, lonely, run down person who needs help, love, support and encouragement. (A brief thought provoker on JOY here: http://www.altaredview.com/2009/05/joy-jesus-then-others-then-yourself.html).

Hey Christians, remember this? Jesus prayed to "take this cup from me."
He wanted to avoid the BIG responsibility and duty in His life. He wanted to avoid suffering.
Maybe instead of bashing Christian mothers, you can remind them that Christ has been there
and understands their hardships. 

Although I also encourage parents to take symptoms seriously and to rule out any conditions or illness, the comments are rather clear...if you are unhappy, clearly you're sick in the mind. Or an evil person.

Some people asked for ideas about what to say that's supportive in this case. Here are some ideas:

Very familiar with the person: "Hey, it's normal. Try to make it through the day/week/month. Treat yourself. Get some extra sleep. Let me know when I can come over to do the dishes or watch the kids."

Friends: "Let me buy you a coffee and you can let it all out." "Let's have a playdate at the local hamster tube place and just veg out." "Hey I saw a funny movie. Rent it and watch it tonight after the kids fall asleep.Give yourself some time to laugh and relax."

Everyone: "I've felt that way, too." "I've been there, too." "This is normal." "You're going to make it through this." "It really does get better." "If you need anything, let me know."


The other day, I received a vulnerable private message. The mama shared a lot of negative emotions she was feeling. The raw hurt coming through made me want to directly address this issue:

It's okay to say you don't like mothering.
It's okay to say you feel discouraged.
It's okay to say you're not having a good time.
It's okay to say you're unhappy.

It's okay to feel angry, sad, worried, lost, inferior, regretful, trapped, confused, exhausted, frustrated and more.

It's really okay.

These feelings do not define you. They do not show your true character, nor do they bind you to any one choice when resolving or improving the situation.

In case you think you're the only one, you're not. Every parent at some point has felt this way, whether fleeting in the middle of the night, or longer term with a difficult phase. And if they haven't, well, they will

Parenting is a catalyst. It's the point where our identities, goals, fears and dreams collide with another person and then expand or contract with that person's best interests as the top priority. Parenting is hard, sweaty, sometimes (ha often times) unpleasant work.

Let it be clear that on this page/blog, we do understanding. We do supporting. We do encouraging. We do affirming. We laugh at silly jokes. We stay up too late. We get to the nitty gritty on hard topics. We listen without requiring addendums. In this place, we accept ourselves right where we are at the moment and we look forward to great things in our lives.

Go ahead. Acknowledge those emotions. A numb person can't feel the deepest aspects of human experience. That means taking the negative with the positive. Acknowledge your hurts, your hardships, your frustrations, your tragedies and everything else that comes with opening your heart, body and life to another person for the rest of your life. It's okay to feel human.

Amanda Bannon shares a photo of her son, Connor. He was upset
because some chickens wouldn't let him pet them. As unconditional/attached parents,
we strive to acknowledge the full spectrum of human experiences for our children.
What about us?

If you liked this post...

One Rough Moment:
http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2012/09/one-rough-moment.html

You aren't good enough:
http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2012/08/you-arent-good-enough.html

I'm a mom and I've had enough:
http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2012/05/im-mom-and-ive-had-enough.html

For those situations when it's more than feelings: PPD, PPP, PTSD, anxiety and depression:
http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2012/10/todays-links-on-post-partum-depression.html

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Learning to Love at Night

Sleeping is a hot topic when it comes to babies. How, when, where...it's safe to say American parents are obsessed with the sleeping habits of their babies. For many parents, sleep patterns are not accepted, but rather carefully planned out with intense training, including regimens that begin sometimes as early as 6-8 weeks of age.


Jen's baby catches some Zzzz with Daddy.

As the parenting wars wage on about the practice of CIO (cry it out), I read an article in the November issue of Parenting. It touched on an aspect not mentioned about night time parenting: the moments we have with our children, where we grow and learn to love in new ways. What are we missing as parents when we turn out the lights and take a break from parenting as the sun goes down?

The author, Ross McCammon, reports that when he started to wake up before his baby was screaming, he learned something new:

It seems like hearing the early part [before crying] is the way parenting should work- no matter how old a kid is. The early part involves being curious about their lives, being involved, anticipating a problem. The early part is an opportunity, a preemptive strike. It's you requesting their time, instead of them demanding your care. Sure I'd rather be sleeping at 4:30 in the morning, but if my son wants to hang out for a few minutes before getting down to the business of babyhood then I'll make the best of it. I look forward to it. 4:30 is a gift- one I didn't know I wanted, but I'll take it. (Parenting, issue 269)

Holly's baby catches some daddy time in the wee hours of the night.


You can see more adorable babies sleeping in the slideshow:



Resources:

http://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/cosleeping.pdf

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/sleep-safety/safe-co-sleeping-habits

http://babyparenting.about.com/od/sleeping/a/cosleep.htm

http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/safe-cosleeping.html

Healing from a Homebirth Transfer

©  2012 Anonymous upon request
"First, I'd like to thank you for all the support I see you post for all sorts of birth and loss. Second, if you choose to post about this I'd like to remain anonymous.

 I gave birth on Saturday to my fourth baby. A boy. He is beautiful and healthy. It was an intended homebirth. I had seen a well respected midwife beginning at 8 weeks into the pregnancy. I got to 41 weeks 3 days when she wanted me to have a biophysical profile done.

Well, my baby failed the test. They gave me a 2 for fluid levels and said my placenta was a grade 3. She came to my home to tell me we needed to induce. I told her I wanted another opinion so we went late that night to her OB friend and he saw movement but said the placenta looked ready.

She, her student, and my husband pushed for induction. They said baby only had a 25% survival rate and I should just be having a csection anyways. I was made to feel selfish, and that I would be saved by this almighty induction.

Now, I am grieving. I will never have my peaceful home birth. I will never be without the trauma of 36 hours of labor. I will never get back the lost moment, when I wasn't able to celebrate my daughter's second birthday because I was strapped down in the hospital.

I feel as if I cannot forgive them and I am struggling so badly with this. I am of course very thankful for my boy. He's perfect. And I thank God he IS okay. But that doesn't take away the hurt. I will always feel robbed. I know he would've been okay and that I should've walked out of that hospital.

I know that I would still be holding a healthy baby boy. Where do I go from here? I'm left with the financial burdens of unintended hospital birth, a midwife who seems to think I got lucky thanks to her, and a husband who is oblivious to the damage. Where do I go? What do I do? Who do I decide to believe?"


Another mama, Krystal, shares a photo of her third c-section
after preparing for a VBAC.
Related story:

http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2012/04/confessions-of-unassisted-transfer-mama.html

Resources:

You can find support and read stories at Mothering.com's Healing Birth Trauma forum:
http://www.mothering.com/community/f/502/healing-birth-trauma

Solace for Mothers is a safe place:
http://www.solaceformothers.org/

Here are some basic tips to get you started:
http://enjoybirth.com/blog/2011/06/16/7-tips-to-heal/

Birth talk explores birth trauma:
http://www.birthtalk.org/Art5Healing.html

Entering motherhood with trauma:
http://www.midwiferytoday.com/articles/healing_trauma.asp

When birth trauma is related to the past...there is hope and help. Check out our community for daily links and photo inspiration:
http://www.facebook.com/SurvivorParents?ref=ts&fref=ts

Survivor resources here:
http://guggiedaly.blogspot.com/2012/07/boundaries-for-attachment-parenting.html




Will German Babies be Protected from Genital Amputation?


 
Just published in Haaretz in Israel.

An end to the agony

It is an amputation of a healthy, sensitive body part that is performed without specific medical need, and without the patient's consent.

By Victor S. Schonfeld Oct.12, 2012 | 4:01 AM

Germany's parliament may soon approve a law to protect religious circumcision, this to counteract a Cologne court ruling last June that pronounced the practice unlawful.

This is wrong - the German government should rethink. I say this as a Jewish parent from a proud rabbinic lineage, with relatives killed in the Holocaust; I say this as the maker of "It's a Boy!" - the 1995 British TV documentary that first broke the taboo on showing the hidden toll of circumcision. It demonstrated how a rite ingrained in Jewish and Muslim culture, and said to be divinely commanded, regularly results in acute suffering, injuries, mutilation and deaths.

The film triggered a furor in Britain by chronicling the near-death of a baby circumcised by a mohel, and I hoped this would start a phasing-out of the custom. Instead, at pulpits across the U.K., rabbis denounced "that film made by a self-hating Jew," and urged parents to ignore it.

Change in the community could not come on the strength of information alone; I saw that government involvement would be needed. It was especially disappointing because my Jewishness prizes dissent and open debate.
Now my 12-year-old daughter is looking forward to her bat mitzvah, and she hears that Israel's Chief Rabbi Yona Metzger has declared circumcision is "the root of the Jewish soul." "An amputation done with no pain control?" she says. "Done outside of hospitals, by people who are not doctors? A religious ritual only for boys? How can this be the root of the Jewish soul in 2012?"

Sadly, I explain that there is enforced ignorance, as was the case when our family was pressured into having her older brother circumcised as an infant. Only after we witnessed his agony did we realize we'd been bullied into betraying our protective roles. I explain that injuries and near-deaths are hushed up, though each day hundreds of such incidents occur globally among those who practice the rite (as research by the British organization NORM-UK reveals ). I explain that fatalities are rarely spoken of, though each day brings three or four. And the lost children have sometimes been erased from Jewish family trees, as my film attests. That can be comprehended perhaps as a legacy of the Talmud, which instructs that a mother may cease offering babies for circumcision after three of her offspring have died from it.

I recall the TV documentary I made against corporal punishment of children, and how I applauded countries like Israel and Germany, which were among the first to outlaw such punishment. It appears to me wholly contradictory that those countries protect a tradition that routinely inflicts greater suffering and harm. And none should take a lead from America, where it's still legal for parents to hit children, where pediatricians profit from a sideline in circumcisions of boys of all backgrounds. The American Academy of Pediatrics, the profession's trade organization, has issued yet another equivocal statement recently, about a practice that is a money-spinner for some of its members.

The Cologne court was right to rule that circumcision is an assault on a child. It is an amputation of a healthy, sensitive body part that is performed without specific medical need, without the patient's consent. Elected leaders of conscience should not support a custom that so obviously infringes principles enshrined in the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In Israel, some young adults now choose to be tattooed with the Auschwitz numbers of their forbears. A moving tribute. But if a religious leader decided it was God's commandment that babies be tattooed, we'd halt that everywhere. Religious Jews manage without animal sacrifices, without polygamy, without a range of practices that enlightened rabbis found reasons to dispense with over the centuries.

Ironically, there was a time in Germany, long before the Nazi era, when some rabbinic leaders advocated abandoning circumcision; they termed it barbarism. Theodor Herzl, the father of Zionism, refused to have his son circumcised.

Given present knowledge of the pain and complications caused, an absolute ban is logical. But a sudden ban could drive circumcision underground. The law now should require that circumcision is only performed by doctors, in hospitals, using effective anesthesia, after both parents have been fully apprised of the risks. This will substantially reduce the prevalence of the custom, and will reduce the casualty rate and the suffering. With phased steps toward abolition, proponents of religious circumcision may put up less of a fight as the practice gradually falls out of favor.

I think about this positively: For my daughter's generation and those following, shouldn't Jewish and Muslim identities embrace children's rights?Nonviolent welcoming ceremonies would be equally meaningful for baby girls and boys. A handful of rabbis in America and Germany have been pioneering "brit shalom" ceremonies. These celebrate the perfection present at the birth of all children. That's the true praise for a Creator, after all, rather than "corrective surgery" for every newborn boy.

Despite Wednesday's decision by the German cabinet to approve legislation that would protect circumcision, it's still not too late to reverse course. In a letter I've sent Chancellor Angela Merkel my message is simple: Please don't undo the opportunity for change created by your courageous Cologne judge. Jewish and Muslim children deserve protection from a hurtful, dangerous custom overdue for replacement. If it takes a court in 21st-century Germany to help us move beyond circumcision, I welcome that.

Filmmaker Victor Schonfeld's documentaries include "Loving Smacks," "Shattered Dreams: Picking Up the Pieces" and "The Animals Film." "It's a Boy!" is available from www.itsaboythefilm.com.
 
http://www.haaretz.com/print-edition/opinion/an-end-to-the-agony.premium-1.469576

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American Rabbis Explain their Opposition to Circumcision.
Progressive Rabbis On Creating A Jewish Covenant Without Circumcision
Humanistic Judaism Increasingly Critical of Child Circumcision
Rabbi Nathan Segal * A Progressive Rabbi urges us to move to peaceful covenants.
Rabbi Jeffrey Falick: Eliminating The Cruelest Cut * The Vice President of the Association of Humanistic Rabbis writes on Intactivism.
Rabbi Jeffrey Falick: A Resource Guide To The "Intactivist" (No Circumcision) Movement
 *

Jewish Intactivist Media.
BeyondtheBris.com * Jewish Intactivist Articles & Opinions.
Cut: Slicing Through the Myths of Circumcision * A Movie by Orthodox Intactivist, Eliyahu Ungar-Sargon
Questioning Circumcision: A Jewish Perspective by Ronald Goldman, Ph.D. *
Rabbis and other leaders who lead covenant without cutting ceremonies. *

Jewish Intactivist Groups.
Jews Against Circumcision * Jews For the Rights of the Child * Questioning Circumcision: A Jewish Perspective * Gonnen * Kahal * Af-Mila: An Israeli Jewish Intactivist Journal *
The Israeli Association Against Genital Mutilation *

The Moral Problems of Circumcision & the Search for Jewish Alternatives.
Jewish Rationales for Abolishing Circumcision * by Jews Against Circumcision.
Eli Ungar-Sargon & Rabbi Shmuley Boteach on the Ethical Problems of Circumcision * At the Manhattan Jewish Experience.
Eli Ungar-Sargon: Outlawing Circumcision: Good for the Jews? * Published in the Jewish Daily Forward.
Hebrew Scholar Vadim Cherny: How Judaic is circumcision? * It’s not at all, he finds.
Circumcision Questions (letter from an intact Jew)
. * Published in the Northern California Jewish Bulletin.
Miriam Pollack: Circumcision: Identity, Gender, and Power * Originally published in Tikkun magazine.
Miriam Pollack: Circumcision : A Jewish Feminist Perspective * Published in Jewish Women Speak Out.
The Measure of His Grief by Lisa Braver Moss
 * A new book exploring Jewish intactivism
Jenny Goodman, MD: An Alternative Perspective * A Jewish doctor in the UK urges us to keep our sons intact.
A Jewish Case for Bris without Milah. * 
Moshe Rothenberg: Being Rational About Circumcision and Jewish Observance *
Brit Milah: Inconsistent with Jewish Ethics? * Written by a Jewish parent.
The Foreskin and Human Rights Law.
Jewish Questioning of Traditional Circumcision * Part 1.
Jewish Questioning of Traditional Circumcision * Part 2.
Jewish Questioning of Traditional Circumcision * Part 3.

Leaders in the Jewish Movement to Abolish Circumcision
The Intactivist Movement Within Judaism. * Published on Saving Sons
Today’s Jews Reject Circumcision and Choose Peaceful Welcoming Covenants * An Intactivist Midwife.
Regretting Circumcision: Women’s Perspectives
 * Published on Dr. Ron Goldman’s site.
Progressive, Moral Jews speak out in Favor of Banning Circumcision on Minors. * Intactivism and Human Rights.
The History of Circumcision: Leonard Glick , MD, PhD. explains how he came to write Marked In Your Flesh. *
American Jews Speak Out in Favor of Banning Circumcision on Minors *
International Jews Also Favor Outlawing Circumcision of Minors *
Judaism, Human Rights and the History of Circumcision * 

Peaceful Covenant Texts for Jewish Parents.Worldwide list of Rabbis who lead covenant without cutting ceremonies *
Song for an Intact Jewish Boy’s Welcoming Ceremony *
Brit B'lee Milah Ceremony *
A Brit Shalom Ceremony *
Norm Cohen: A Brit B’lee Milah Ceremony *

Jewish Parents' Experiences Keeping their Sons Intact.Dear Elijah: A Conservative Jewish Father's Letter to His Intact Son * Published on Peaceful Parenting.
Moshe Rothenberg: Ending Circumcision in the Jewish Community? * Envisioning an Intactivist Judaism.
Michael Kimmel: The Kindest Un-Cut: Feminism, Judaism, and My Son's Foreskin * Published in Tikkun. 
The Naming
 * Published on Very, Very Fine.Stacey Greenberg: My Son: The Little Jew with a Foreskin * Published in Mothering Magazine.Intact & Jewish * Published on the Natural Parents Network
Laura Shanley: A Jewish Woman Denounces Circumcision
 * A Childbirth educator chooses intact.



Monday, October 15, 2012

Today's Links on Pregnancy & Infant Loss


Brandi shares her miscarriage story. The first anniversary is coming up November 6th:

Erica shares the story of her son Kaleb:

Jeanne bares her soul for us in this blog. This is her most recent post, but you can find the beginning linked on the side of the blog:

Dedicated to stillbirth awareness:

Here is a recommended book on loss:

One of the most beautiful things I discovered on the internet: You can have your little angel's name written in the sand with a beautiful sunset.

You can join in an organized effort to raise awareness with the, "I am the face" campaign here:

A song about pregnancy loss:

More information on how to prepare to TTC after loss:

Thoughts on the unique grieving after pregnancy loss:

Ideas on what to do when someone responds without care:

"We regret to inform you that another child has lost his life to cancer. During his four years of life, Hayden Jones still brought laughter and joy to those around him."

It's shocking when you realize this isn't already normal in all states:

The singer says: "I co-wrote this song with Gordie Sampson from the perspective of an unborn baby. A close friend and his wife had a miscarriage, and I witnessed the pain they went through losing a baby. I wanted to write a song to help people cope with that trauma and somehow bring a positive light to the subject."

Here is a short, basic page to share with friends and families to start to break the silence:

This page has a collection of informative links divided by topic:

Some interesting thoughts on common ideas surrounding pregnancy loss:

What can you say? What can you do? Here are helpful suggestions:

People speaking without care is so common, and so painful, someone started a blog about it:

An excellent guide from all perspectives:

What can partners say and do?

A father blogs about loss:

From dads, for dads, a place to talk about loss:

"I Never Held You speaks to the heart of women, their families and friends who have either lived through the pain & grief after miscarriage, or who want to better support someone who has."
"Trying Again lessens the uncertainties about pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss by providing the facts to help you determine if you and your partner are emotionally ready for another pregnancy. It also imparts essential advice about preparing and planning for another baby when you decide the time is right."

For my Catholic friends... The Daily Catholic Crunch

"In spite of the fact that 1 in every 115 deliveries is a stillborn baby, stillbirth continues to be a taboo subject. In Life Touches Life, Lorraine Ash describes how she met that silence head-on. After a trouble-free pregnancy, her baby was declared dead on what was to be her date of birth. Following a C-section, Ash fought a fever that raged at 104 degrees and almost succumbed to the silent B-strep infection that had killed her daughter. Devastated by the experience, Ash sought solace and perspective in all the old places and found little relief. In this moving account she discusses the inner changes she faced after the stillbirth of her daughter, delves into spiritual questions that shook her soul, and examines the connection between mother and child that transcends separation and death."

"This pocket sized book is for men who experience the death of their infant child -- whether it be miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death. "

"This pocket sized book is for men who experience the death of their infant child -- whether it be miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death. "

A walk to remember:

Lily's mama shares the time she had with her daughter here:

Siblings need to process, grieve and heal, too:

This mama sells products for remembering pregnancy and infant losses:
A project in memory of their child:

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep...Remembrance Photography for those experiencing loss. Learn more about them here:

This author has reached a stage in her journey where she finds things that have changed within her life, for good:

A story of love that continued after loss:

This article talks about stillbirth, some risk factors and raising awareness:

This is a calm, thorough piece on the basics of miscarriage, good for sharing with friends and family who have questions:

Here is a really tough topic that is not being talked about enough. Doctors might be diagnosing a miscarriage too soon. Mothers can find support here:

More on the issue of misdiagnosed loss:

A mama shares her misdiagnosed story:

"The consultant who wrongly told an expectant mother that her unborn child was dead has defended his handling of her case, insisting he has ‘no regrets’ about how he did his job."

Hope is hard to have and yet so desired:

A song wondering what if:

"One loss mom challenges us to speak out about our losses. You won't be able to read this without crying."

:( Antidepressants linked to miscarriages:

Birth Without Fear hosted a post on loss:

What do you know about cord accidents?

Basics of healing after a loss:

For those wanting to avoid a D&C:

Will these ideas work? We don't know. But sometimes trying helps in and of itself: