"But, Guggie, boys and girls are different!" Ya know what, whether you think they are different or the same or some other gradient comparison, I can absolutely, 100% guarantee your children are MORE than merely pretty and tough. More than cool and sweet. And more than pigeonholed activities. I'm not telling you to ignore who your child is, on the contrary, I'm telling you to see all of your child and to let your child know that you value him or her for more than looks and socially acceptable roles.
"But, Guggie, I don't mean pretty like her physical beauty. I mean pretty on the inside." Then start using real words to describe the interior of a person. Start using accurate words, descriptive words, deep words. If it isn't about physical beauty, then you don't need to use the word pretty, cute or beautiful. Bonus: this is also an excellent way to expand and improve your young child's vocabulary!
No matter what the sex, the gender, the orientation or anything else might be, whether imposed upon them or found within them, whether biblical or societal, whether a sign of our era or a sign of biology...our children are human and they are all filled with a variety of traits, talents, skills and qualities. Let's get to know our children below their skins.
Can you talk to a child without mentioning appearances?
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