Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Why Parents Yell

Yelling...it's ineffective but it's also a sign that parents and children are growing apart. If life is getting crazy, if your child "isn't obeying" and if you find yourself yelling or even escalating to other punitive methods, find a way to bring the hearts together.

"Why We Shout In Anger"
~Author Unknown

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples, smiled and asked, "Why do people shout in anger at each other?"

The disciples thought for a while and one of them said, "We shout because we lose our calm."

The saint responded, "But, why would you shout when the other person is right next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner."

So the disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied him. Finally the saint explained:

"When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are far apart. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other over that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small."

The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they reach a point where they need not whisper, they only look at each other. That is how close two people are when they love each other."

He looked at his disciples and said, "So when you argue do not let your hearts grow distant. Do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return."

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