Does that question sound rude to you? Inflammatory? Judgmental?
Did you ever stop for a moment to consider your reaction to that question is coming from within you, and that only you can change?
For weeks now, I've watched people publish Maria Kang's exercise photo so that they could attack her, shame her, criticize her, and overall completely miss her point.
Yup, miss her point. Completely.
I've seen people wrongly think she wants everyone to look just like her. I've seen people wrongly claim she wants mothers to abandon motherhood, to neglect their children, to undergo elective surgery, to starve themselves and more.
All of it is a dire attempt to miss her point completely.
What's your excuse anyways?
We all have excuses. I'm not talking about priorities. For myself as well as many of you out there, fitness is not a priority on our list. We don't have that desire in our hearts, so we aren't working on it.
But Maria's photo still applies to us.
It's not about trying to look exactly like a 5 foot tall, slightly Asian, very skinny woman. She's not telling you to have 3 children. She's not demanding that you wear tiny athletic outfits.
She is, however, making a really good point, one that mothers in our culture work very hard to ignore. And it's time to stop ignoring it. Now is the time, right now, today, to stop making excuses.
We all have something inside of us. It could be something beautiful, or meaningful, or maybe useful. It could be profound or exciting. It could be tiny and precious or huge and important. Whatever it is, it's in each one of us.
And yet, we obscure it. We run from it. We bury it deep down under hundreds of little excuses. Let's get honest here: We are scared of failure, sure. And maybe the effort, the climb, the commitment. But really, we are scared of ourselves.
What's your excuse?
No matter what life puts in our way or how many obstacles fall in front of us or how others treat us or the cards fate plays for us...it comes down only to us. We box ourselves in and we decide on our restrictions. No one else can do that for us and more importantly: no one else can remove them for us.
Do you ever hear that whisper in your heart? How you long to be.... an artist, maybe?
"No one will like your paintings."
"You can't afford to go back to school."
"Artists don't make money and you're already poor."
"What would the in laws think?"
"You could never build your own studio."
"You husband will just laugh."
"Just because you like it, doesn't mean you're good at it."
What's your excuse to stay in your box?
Late at night, when you're thinking about that thing, the thing you stopped doing or gave up sacrificially or lost sight of in the shuffle of life, what excuses quickly overpower your thoughts?
"I'm a mom now, I'd never have time for that."
"And jog when? I don't even get enough sleep to wake up early!"
"We can't pay our bills as it is, how could I ever sign up for that class?"
"Boy, I'd love to join that volunteer group, just as soon as I find time to take a shower!"
Guess what. Everyone has excuses. Everyone is slightly nervous, slightly unhappy and hugely restricting themselves at some time in life. But you only get one life. One time. The days pass by whether you are doing it or hiding from it. And you can't buy back time. You either get out from under those excuses and do what you have always wanted to do, or you can make excuses as the days pass by, then look back and wish you had done it.
Whatever dream is inside you, what's your excuse?
That excuse can be overcome or sidestepped or dealt with in some way. With creativity and patience, you can do it. And those who have faced their excuses know this. That's why they turn back, like Maria Kang, and ask: What's your excuse?
"I'm just a mom." Well, so are thousands.
"I'm poor." Well, so are most people. They say 99% for a reason.
"I don't have time." None of us do.
"I'm scared." We all are scared.
"People might laugh at me." They probably will, and they might attack, shame, and criticize you.
"I might fail." You most certainly will, likely several times. That's part of life.
"I could never do that." You can't if you never do it.
What's their excuse?
"I don't have legs."
"I don't have arms."
|Harold Alvarez, a Haitian artist and Rotarian who has no arms, |
paints by holding the brush in his mouth.
|Stephen draws like a camera|
|CEOs without a degree|
|Crazy business ideas that worked|
What's my excuse?
I want to write a book. It's been on my mind for a long time now. But when I chat about book writing, I say self-deprecating things with a little giggle. "Oh, congrats to you! Maybe someday when the kids are in college I can write mine, too. *laff*
"I'm a busy mom." And what mom isn't?
"I don't have a nanny." So I'll work around the kids.
"I don't know where to begin." It's time to start somewhere.
"My computer is taped together and must be plugged in all the time." It still works.
"People might steal my research if I put it in book format." They'll steal it anyways.
"I don't have money for publishing and marketing." Then go cheap and just write.
It's time for me to stop making excuses. This idea is within me. It's important to me. I want to do it. So what if I have perceived limitations. So what if I have some obstacles. Other people do, too, and it's not stopping them. At the end of the day, I only have myself staring back at me in the mirror.
|I'm writing a book. |
What's your excuse?